No Time

Generally Speaking

It’s that time of year again! Another year is ending and a new year awaits us. I’m always excited about the New Year. It just feels like a fresh start on life. Not to mention it’s a great time to reflect on past events of your life, and plan out new territory you want to conquer in the future. It’s a time to make changes and free yourself of burdens if need be. Some of us do those things daily, but many of us don’t!

So what have we learned this year?!

Lessons of 2019

  1. Some men can’t handle being your friend once they realize the connection you had no longer exist. Which means their love was conditional. As long as they were able to control the narrative of the relationship and dictate what happens everything is great. But, the minute you move on and accept them as a past experience you become the devil. That’s not love or friendship it’s simply an unhealthy male ego!
  2. Some friends you can talk to about anything. Then there are some friends that you have to select what you can share with them. All friends aren’t good listeners because they can’t hear anything beyond their own perspective or reality.
  3. Some friends are in a secret competition with you, which means you already won. But, you have to realize that friendships of that magnitude are limited. Is that really even a friend?
  4. Love has no time frame, so don’t try to talk yourself out of loving someone because you think it hasn’t been enough time. When you know you know.
  5. You have to be okay with not being considered, invited, or included. It’s life and you can only expect people to be who they are, and not who you are or who you want them to be.

Eye Opener as we bring this year to a close

If you are a regular Let’s Talk Rae Style reader you know I write a lot about dating and relationships. I’m here to tell you that everything I thought I knew has been altered for the better when it comes to love, dating, and relationships! In the spiritual world time is fluid. I’m now a believer that in our current dimension when it comes to love time is fluid as well. We waste so much time trying to hide our true feelings because we don’t want to be hurt. Not realizing that displaying your feelings, dare I say being vulnerable is the only way to experience love in its purest form.

If a man or woman gives you the feels and you start to question yourself! Do yourself a favor, DON’T! Don’t question it just go with the feeling. Allow that person to love on you, support you emotionally, treat you well, pamper you, and whatever else you desire from a partner. It doesn’t matter if the relationship ends abruptly or has longevity. What matters is how you felt within that experience. Did you enjoy how you were treated and the time you spent together? Those are the events that you should be concerned with. We don’t possess people we experience them. Accept the love and don’t concern yourself with the timing. Answer when love calls..

Your life is your story. You’re the star and you have the right to demote and promote as you see fit to enhance your story! Make moves that accommodate you! There is simply NO TIME for anything else. I hope you all have a happy and prosperous New Year!

Cheers!

Thank U, Next: End of year reflection

 

2018 has been a year of loss, endings, and feelings of perplexity. You know that feeling when you are in a state of the unknown? When you know everything is changing around you but you don’t know what the end result will be and if you’ll mentally and emotionally survive… That was how I felt. I had to remind myself that the Universe is always working in my favor regardless if I can see or feel what’s happening. Having a friend die unexpectedly helped put some things in perspective for me. Death has a funny way of making you reevaluate your feelings, life, and your relationships. Continue reading “Thank U, Next: End of year reflection”

Tis the season..

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The holiday preparations started in mid October for retailers with their decorations and sale items. It seems that retailers push Thanksgiving and Christmas together. While many people are checking out sales prices on items their kids want and taking notes on what to get Mom for Christmas, others just feel somewhat overwhelmed by it all.

There are just a few things I want everyone to consider. Although you may consider Thanksgiving and Christmas to be the umtimate holidays remember that everyone may not celebrate or participate for Religious or personal reasons. The holiday season also brings about lots of sadness. Recently I had a discussion with a friend about how the holiday season makes me nervous and I actually dread it because you seem to hear about so many deaths between Thanksgiving and the New Year.

Therefore if you know someone that has lost a loved one please don’t attempt to drown out their sorrows with holiday cheer. It will not work and will probably make the person feel worse. I’m simply asking for consideration of others while you continue your holiday cheer.

Remember what the holiday’s are supposed to be about which is peace, love, and family. If you happen to have all three and more consider yourself fortunate!

Happy Holiday’s if you celebrate!